PSA Breakups?! Is this a thing?

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With the ease of access to information these days via social media, it’s pretty hard to avoid publicity even just locally. Easy access to the latest tea or private details is a double edge sword. On one hand it can prompt hella congrats on the wins in your personal life but on the other hand it may cause some heavy side eyes!

Let’s face it people are entertained by other peoples business good or bad. People will pry, especially if you went public about something like a relationship. So how do you walk that #relationshipgoals post you posted last season back down to the reality of a toxic or broken relationship. Announce it!

There is no better way to clear the air and kill any assumptions about what may or may not have happened then doing a public announcement. A public announcement is not where you bash anyone out of bitterness or the simp out of sadness. This is where you briefly and effectively announce the end of the relationship and go about your day. In my theory when you go public with someone you should also provide a public recognition that the someone and you are no longer. Being vocal about the dis-attachment between you and a past partner can set clear expectations and save a lot of future explaining and potential embarrassment.
Take it from me sis, the last thing you need are your friends and family sending you pictures of your ex in VIP with his new ting!

5 Apps to Get Your Mind Right for 2019

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We’re on to the next one, and we’ve got a list of amazing apps to bring along with us!

If you slayed 2018 and met all of your yearly goals, the  mantra “New Year, New Me” doesn’t have to be literal. A “New You” can simply mean that your auditing all of the things you achieved last year, and taking the time to reflect on how you can take them to the next level moving forward.

With a new year quickly approaching, there’s no better time to look back at all of the amazing things you’ve accomplished over the past 12 months, and all of the goals you plan to conquer next. Creating a list of goals or a mood board can be a great start, but for many of us, the biggest challenge in making a new year count is ensuring accountability. As a Millenial there’s only one thing in life’s that guaranteed; and that’s knowing that you’ll always have your smart phone in arm’s reach. Give your smartphone AND your new year an even stronger sense of purpose by downloading these 5 apps that are guaranteed to keep you encouraged and accountable all through 2019.

 

#SelfishBabe App:

New Year Resolution: Stay Positive & Empowered

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 What Is It?

A women's focused app centered on self-love that will remind you how amazing you are with daily affirmational notifications. Created by women, for women, this personal development app is a power-pack of inspiration filled with #SelfishTruth notifications, Audio Affirmations and more to keep you persistent on your goals while reminding you that it’s okay to be selfish when it comes to living your most authentic life.

Cost: FREE

Favorite Feature: #SelfishTruth Notifications - Daily Notifications to remind you how amazing you truly are

 

Albert App:

New Year Resolution: Manage My Money Better

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 What Is It?

A personal finance app that automates your finances and helps you keep better track of your money. It allows you to sync all of your financial information to view a full scope of your finances; from your credit cards, to your monthly bills and day-to-day expenses. You can automate your savings, receive alerts about tax refunds, upcoming bills or unexpected fees, and receive expert guidance to guide you through creating better financial habits.

 Cost: Basic Plan - Free | Genis Plan - Approx. $4/Month

Favorite Feature: Budget Management - The app has a user-friendly interface that displays your estimated monthly income alongside your expenses for the month so that you can stay on top of how much play money you have to spare.

 

Calm App

New Year Resolution: Prioritize My Mental Health & Personal Wellness

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 What Is It?

Calm provides you with action-oriented solutions for your stress, anxiety and restlessness by guiding you with masterclasses on meditation, breathing, and other resources to increase your mental health and get rid of bad habits. Whether you are a novice or expert, Calm provides both resources and tools to address your unique stress points to help you live a healthier, happier life.

Cost: Basic Plan - Free | Premium Subscription - Approx. $12.99/Month

Favorite Feature: Breathing Exercises - When you’re feeling stressed and need a moment to debrief, Calm offers multiple breathing exercise guides to help you re-center and refocus.

 

Fabulous App

New Year Resolution: Create good habits, and stick to them

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What Is It?

Fabulous is an app that makes you more accountable for your daily habits -- both bad and good. Whether you want to eat healthier, be more active, or spend less time on your phone, Fabulous helps you create a dashboard to physically track your productivity while helping you find ways to make manageable improvements.

Cost: Basic Plan - Free

Favorite Feature: Daily Challenges - Fabulous takes its habit tracking to the next level by offering daily 3-10 minute challenges that help you create an even stronger daily structure for your life.

 

Meet Up App

New Year Resolution: Build new relationships and attend more networking events

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What Is It?

Meet Up is the most popular networking & connection building platform that helps you find people in your immediate area that share your interests, from personal to professional. Whether you’re trying to be more social, traveling to a new place, or need to make more professional connections for your career, Meet Up makes it easy to step out of your comfort zone to find people with similar goals. There are some black-owned apps that fulfill the same purpose including Bburb, Mixle or BYP Network, but Meet Up has the largest overall database of groups to connect with (for now)

 Cost: Basic Plan - Free

Favorite Feature: Group Boards - Check out the Group Boards and event boards to get a feel for what they’re all about before you commit to attending an event. You can also direct message members of the group so that you can connect with people before you attend a meetup in-person.

 

How To Slay Self-Love

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How do you bring Self-love to the light?

You start within and go deep, digging to the core and you stay there awhile, sometimes a long while. Until you find what opens up the freedom in your fall so you can look up and stand taller than you were when you started. But it will ache (whatever it is) until you accept and embrace it for whatever it is. Nourish your imperfections and mold those mistakes into gold, solid gold baby girl.

It is then the transition from your setback to your comeback begins illuminating an awakening of mind, body and spirit for the better. Soul much better. You glow differently. You’re taking your L’s differently and winning from the inside out now.

One day at a time, you begin picking up all the broken pieces and the rebuilding begins. You went from being a whole snack to becoming a whole meal. A masterpiece, who has mastered peace. You are an edifying entrée and the world will come for you desiring every bite of your light in all of your worthy glory if you let them. Don’t.

Hold fast, to owning the light that is all your own. You earned it!

Enduring the process, and honoring your progress will have you looking and feeling like self- love is Bae all day. The time is now to treat yo’ self, relish in your truths, and release toxic energies. Know that there is no ceiling to the evolution of a woman rising and representing into her most authentic and higher self. When looking in the mirror, affirm you are a force to be reckoned with and manifest those feels to the fullest. You can and you will vibrate higher, stronger and wiser.

There is joy in your journey, sis. May you stay shining your light on everything you are instead of everything you are not. Because the growing and glowing struggle is real, but a Queen who has readjusted her crown through it all is the realest!

Now grab your go to gloss, throw your favorite stilettos on and stunt a little bit. Maybe even a lot of bit.

Wink, wave and slay on self- love slaya!